"My parents clung to the stability of The Church to raise their kids after the chaos of their own childhoods." Boy, this and your dual lists, resonated with me. When asked now, I usually answer,
"sorta", and explain there are many wonderful things I love about the faith that formed some of the best parts of me, but that some of my core values no longer align with the proclamations of the church. Yeah, I feel the the need to explain, and that makes me sad.
I’m so glad this resonated with you! Putting these thoughts in words made me wonder if it was only me who had complicated feelings about answering what seems like a simple question. It also makes me sad that we feel compelled to explain…partly because of the brokenness of the church and partly because of feeling conditioned to justify our thoughts as women. When asked now, I usually say something close to “the short answer is yes. The long answer is ‘it’s complicated’”.
"My parents clung to the stability of The Church to raise their kids after the chaos of their own childhoods." Boy, this and your dual lists, resonated with me. When asked now, I usually answer,
"sorta", and explain there are many wonderful things I love about the faith that formed some of the best parts of me, but that some of my core values no longer align with the proclamations of the church. Yeah, I feel the the need to explain, and that makes me sad.
I’m so glad this resonated with you! Putting these thoughts in words made me wonder if it was only me who had complicated feelings about answering what seems like a simple question. It also makes me sad that we feel compelled to explain…partly because of the brokenness of the church and partly because of feeling conditioned to justify our thoughts as women. When asked now, I usually say something close to “the short answer is yes. The long answer is ‘it’s complicated’”.