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Carol M Colvin's avatar

Brilliant! Perfect analogy- and I wrote my final paper of my college career on the effective use of analogy, so I know a good one when I see it!

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Brenna Kimber's avatar

This is just so, so good.

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At Last She Said It's avatar

thanks brenna!

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Jamee Andelin's avatar

My favorite part of this article is where you said that you’ve made zero change in the institution but 100% change in your personal life. Getting to the point where realizing and accepting that this is the most important change is still something I’m working on.

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At Last She Said It's avatar

I do think it is possible to make teeny weeny changes at the local level, but yea, no guarantee there either! I am proof! -C

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Jennifer Thomas's avatar

This really resonates with my personal experience as well. After two years of attending (and kicking up dust) as a transfeminine member, I saw the local ward members make some small forward progress and then the institution make a large step backwards (in the August 2024 Handbook update). I refocused on making personal changes and began attending a non-LDS congregation that is totally affirming and accepting. It has made a world of difference in my life.

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At Last She Said It's avatar

I am so glad you found an affirming congregation. ~C

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Jamee Andelin's avatar

This was such a heavy burden for me to see! When little changes are made amongst the local members but the institution has the power over the local wards, the work is exhausting 😩

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Stephenie G.'s avatar

So grateful for all the dust you’ve kicked up! Loved this😊

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Angie Dodge's avatar

Love this! It speaks volumes of what is needed and how women need more of a role in leadership within the church.

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At Last She Said It's avatar

May the men in charge agree with you! Until then, I'll be doing my own thing. ~C

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Terri petersen's avatar

This article is fantastic. Thank you for being one of the best dust raisers! Even if you haven’t changed the ward or church (yet) you have changed minds and hearts!

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Cynthia Winward's avatar

Thanks Terri! Sometimes it’s right to speak up, and sometimes it’s not!

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Terri petersen's avatar

And “the wisdom to know the difference”!😉

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