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Carol G's avatar

Most people wouldn't believe it now, but at one time I attended the temple weekly. Even when we went on vacation, I made an attempt to attend the temple. I am not sure why to be honest. It was not because I loved it or that it brought me peace. I was struggling with a lot of issues. My gay son in particular was struggling with teaching at BYU and I thought for sure that if I just went to the temple weekly, everything would work out okay. I always feel a little jealous at those who seem to find peace and answers in the temple. I just feel a lot of frustration and emotional pain. Thank you for a great article.

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Sherri M.'s avatar

Thank you, Cynthia. I’m living in a similar space right now. I keep butting heads with the endless temple stuff because I just don’t believe most of it and I find a lot of it problematic.

My grandmother lived her whole life in the church married to my grandpa who didn’t go or participate. They were not married in the temple. This meant that even though she was very active her whole life and served in any and all callings available to women including RS president, she did not go to the temple until very late in her life bc women weren’t allowed to go without an active believing endowed husband. Back then the temple wasn’t pushed endlessly in every lesson. I don’t remember it making her feel less than or sidelined. It certainly didn’t affect whether she was seen as able to serve in callings.

That’s so different from what I am facing. A good 50% or more of church talks and lessons in my ward are about the temple. I literally looked up the topic for this last 5th week lesson before committing to go. I saw it was supposed to be about Christ so I went. It was a bait and switch. They advertised Christ and then spent whole time talking about the temple. It’s really feeling like we worship the temple not Christ. I am having a hard time finding Christ anywhere.

I am now going to check out a weeknight class at a local progressive church that is all about Jesus’s parables. I’ve got to find some Jesus somewhere.

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