“The most liberating process is to realize that no one’s expectations for my life matter but my own,” says therapist C.A. Larson. In Episode 170, she joins Cynthia and Susan for the first part of a discussion about guilt and shame. What’s the difference between these two emotions? How do they help or hinder our growth and progress? And what tools can we use to manage them in healthy ways, and move toward greater self-acceptance?
Notes and Quotes:
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, by Brene Brown
Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience, by Brene Brown
Let Go of the Guilt: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Take Back Your Joy, by Valorie Burton
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and our Lives Revealed, by Lori Gottlieb
The Barbie Monologue for LDS Women, by C.A. Larson, Say More: At Last She Writes It, No. 4 11/2023
For the Sake of Your Posterity, by Elder Carlos A. Godoy, October 2023
To the Mothers in Zion, by Pres. Ezra Taft Benson, February 1987
Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, by Dr. Becky Kennedy
Faith After Doubt: Why Your Beliefs Stopped Working, and What to Do about It, by Brian D. McLaren
“Just because she sends you guilt doesn’t mean you have to accept delivery.” — Lori Gottlieb
“Before you can be anything, you have to be yourself. That’s the hardest thing to find.” — E.L. Konigsburg
“If your parental guilt is running on overdrive…if you’re worried you messed up or missed the boat, and that your kids have aged out of the most important time….take a breath. Say hello to the guilt and then remind yourself that you are a good parent working on yourself and your relationships, and this is, actually, the best any of us can do.” — Dr. Becky Kennedy, Good Inside
